Looking at problem solving strategies may be the last thing you want to do at the moment. However, the death of a loved one can create enormous problems on top of dealing with your grief and loss.
If you have lost your life partner or a significant person in your life you have probably realised that your life has now changed forever. You may be faced with a number of significant problems or issues which are needing resolution.
Firstly there are the many decisions and choices to be made regarding funeral arrangements. The universal questions of how, what, when, where, why, who, can help here. Often this is when a friend or relative will step in and assist. However, if this is going to be you, then you will need to give these issues some thought. The funeral director can help with all the questions that need to be answered regarding funeral arrangements. You are probably the person who has the most intimate knowledge of your loved ones wishes. Use this time to acknowledge their wishes and to be involved in the arrangements for your own need to be part of the funeral process.
Once the funeral is over it is likely that people will disappear just as quickly as they appeared. You may now be on your own to deal with your changed life circumstances. Some issues you may need to address with problem solving skills could be:
Relationship and Emotional Issues
Suddenly relationships have changed and no one is quite sure how to deal with it.
Whatever your circumstances or your problem solving skills, you will be faced with many changes when dealing with grief. Changes consequently create more problems.
Problem solving and decision making can involve any issue or task that you need to complete or resolve. Make sure that it is something that you need to address and not your grief or emotions taking over. For instance if your financial situation is such that you must sell you home or move, then this is what you need to do and you can work on some problem solving strategies to help you. However, unless you actually must make a significant change it is best to wait for a while, let the grief and pain subside a little before you take on huge changes.
Use the following problem solving process to clarify the problems and find appropriate solutions. Write it down and ask someone to go through the process with you.
This is the starting point of the problem solving process and sometimes the toughest one to conquer. Whatever is happening, it must be your problem, not someone else’s problem or someone else’s fault. OK then these questions may help.
An important problem solving skill is analysing the problem. Make sure that you complete this step to ensure that the solutions finally reached will be effective ones.
Implementation and follow up complete the problem solving process. Make sure that you continue to maintain a written (or electronic) recording of all aspects of the problem solving process.